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The offset matter I can recall clearly was sitting in a infirmary room in the dark.

I knew something was wrong — that there was something wrong with me — and yet, I couldn't tell exactly what. I realized the left side of my face was numb. Hanging on the wall in front of me was a tv set, but there was something incorrect with it besides. A ghostly copy was superimposed over the standard set; it was rotated at roughly a 15-degree angle and faded abroad into the burnt foam walls. Is the Tv the problem, or is it me?

My mother and a nurse wearing scrubs entered from the left, a disorienting place outside of my field of vision.

"That's our girl," my mom said, approaching my bed. "How are you doing today?"

Why was she so nonchalant? Why wasn't she worried? Considering the haphazard inventory I had just taken, I probably should accept demanded answers or cursed a fleck. Raised some hell. Instead, I replied with an uncertain "… good," slightly alarmed that she, too, possessed a ghostly, tilted imprint. When I was young, my mother e'er went on, at length, virtually the difficulties of raising my decumbent-to-tantrums, bang-his-head-on-the-concrete-when-angry older brother. And so, turning to me, she'd say, "But you lot, y'all're so easy. And at-home. And you never mutter." I approximate that hadn't inverse. I wanted to ask her what was happening — and where I was. Instead, I swept my arm in front of me and, trying to find out what would happen next, said, "And now?"

Earlier she answered, another character entered from the hallway, just this ane I couldn't place. Adequately young — my historic period, past the look of him — his youth was accentuated past a clean-shaven chin under full, feminine lips and a baseball cap perched precariously on his caput, above his boyish face. He had the look of a perpetually surprised toddler, lips slightly parted in wonder and curiosity.

"Now you accept concrete therapy," he commented.

The physical therapist, a blonde woman with mentum-length hair, stepped in from phase right, clipboard in hand and a laminated badge dangling from a lanyard around her neck. When she entered, the nurse left, not wanting to crowd the room.

The physical therapist pushed a rolling walker to the edge of my bed and beckoned me to rise. My initial movements were the stop-motion stutter of a crude blitheness. I reached for ane of the walker'south handles. And missed. The double prototype layered on peak of what I idea was the actual walker jutted out awkwardly in a direction that led me to believe it couldn't be the existent 1 — was I wrong? I tried again. Yes, I was incorrect.

"Are you OK? Ready to stand?" the concrete therapist asked.

Planting my feet shoulder-width autonomously, clinging to my walker, I clambered to a standing position — I'm generous when I use that phrase. Between my shaking limbs, bent knees and outstretched arms, I must've looked more like a member of a seniors' Pilates form than the 25-year-one-time woman I presumed myself to all the same exist. Everything, including myself, felt familiar all the same foreign, an already-read volume revisited accidentally. An eerie sense of déjà vu — my own personal uncanny valley, and so familiar but not the same.

"OK, Brooke." The physical therapist then addressed my mother and her companion. "We'll be back in 45 minutes."

The therapist led me downwardly a long hallway lined with other rooms and other patients. Every few feet, the therapist paused and waited for me to inch toward her, patiently watching with a fixed smile for the end-motion hermit crab to scuttle closer.

"Now simply a little farther to the elevator," the therapist said, pulling me back to the job at hand. I had merely discovered I was having issues multitasking: Whenever I started thinking too much, I couldn't walk.

My god, I idea, I am exhausted and nosotros're non fifty-fifty where we're going still.

When nosotros finally reached the elevator, I stepped inside, at the therapist'south behest.

"I feel like I know yous," my vocalism hissed out of my mouth similar a barely audible stream of gas. A expiry rattle that made syllables and managed to course words.

At first, I wasn't sure she had heard whatever had escaped my throat. Her back, still facing me, seemed crystallized in position. Finally, she turned and looked at me for a long moment. When the lift doors dinged close, she took a deep jiff and sighed.

"I'm Linda."

"My granddaddy's girlfriend has your name."

Linda'southward oral cavity tightened, but her eyes softened.

"I know. I've introduced myself to you virtually every twenty-four hour period for the by two weeks."

Luckily, my memories started to stick subsequently that disconcerting moment with the Telly. Unluckily, weeks had already elapsed since I had been admitted to the hospital, some of which time I'd been asleep. I started receiving various stories about what had happened. Some true, some, I would eventually come up to realize, fiction.

One day, before long later I'd started to think Linda the therapist, the boy with the artless face and childlike chapeau — I'll call him Stanley here — slipped into the hospital bed with me. Alarmed, but oddly complacent, I said nothing, fifty-fifty as he leaned close to me and whispered into my ear, "I've been telling everyone that I'thou your fellow."

"Yes, OK."

Hadn't this happened before? Him divulging he was my boyfriend … information technology felt familiar. How many times had this happened?

"OK," he parroted and turned to Naked and Agape on the Telly.

"My face is numb."

"Yep, you lot've been saying that."

"That screen is double."

"Yep, y'all've been proverb that too."

"What happened?"

Stanley artsy his head to the side like a confused domestic dog and considered my question — or at to the lowest degree, I figured he was considering information technology. Maybe he was worried almost me. Maybe my well-being concerned him.

"What do you recall?" he asked me.

"Y'all moved your stuff into my room." I knew this had happened, even though I hadn't realized it a moment before. But I remembered that detail and I knew I knew him. In what capacity? His claim to be my boyfriend didn't feel correct — it couldn't have been romantic. Wasn't I just doing him a favor?

His already round, wide optics widened farther. He pursed his lips and diverted his gaze.

"Y'all allowed me to motion into your apartment temporarily." Stanley paused. "That'southward the final thing y'all remember? And yous don't remember what you had been doing that day?"

"What 24-hour interval?"

Stanley let out a huff of air in exasperation. He shook his head in exaggerated impatience, rolling his optics.

"The day you and Cassie climbed a redwood nearly the trailer park and you lot fell 25 feet out of information technology."

According to my mother, in the early days of my hospitalization, every time Stanley entered my hospital room and appear himself to the doctors and nurses as my boyfriend, I threw out an arm in a warped imitation of Vanna White and exclaimed, "I guess I take a young man at present." Cue Pat Sajak chortling skilful-naturedly.

It came back to me early on, distinctly, that he had never wanted to be my young man before this.

Just whenever I broached the discipline, Stanley told me he hadn't known what he wanted before, but uncertain of whether I would alive or die, he became aware of how he felt. My skepticism remained even as my retention wavered.

Yet, he showed up each day, and I began to believe him when he said his feelings had inverse. Trapped in my bed and visited by therapists I simply partially knew and family members I merely vaguely recognized, it was nice to take someone else come come across me and do give-and-take puzzles in bed with me, fifty-fifty if I didn't always think who he was right abroad.

Other friends of mine who came to meet me in the hospital were wary of Stanley, but his insistence on his right to be in that location and his role in my life stifled whatever objections that even my best friend, Sam, thought to brand. My mother and I had always communicated infrequently virtually my romantic endeavors. Coping as all-time she could, she remained intoxicated nigh of the time I was in the hospital and didn't question Stanley's version of events. Later, she said I seemed like I wanted him there.

When I was released from the hospital, I couldn't walk without an arm crutch, and my memory was still far from intact. Santa Clara Medical Center insisted I get out in a wheelchair, and I was wheeled out to Stanley'due south car. He said nosotros'd decided together that he'd move to San Diego with me. With no memory of the original conversation, I believed him, merely I felt overwhelmed.

Post-obit the seven-hour drive to North Canton San Diego, I told my mom I didn't want to live with him. And although Stanley repeatedly hinted he should stay at my parents' home, my mom put her pes down and said Stanley couldn't live with u.s.a..

So he got a recruiting chore and a room nearby. On weekdays after getting off work, he'd walk through the side gate without announcing he was coming. On one item day in late fall, two months after my hospital stay, he came into the lawn while I skimmed messages on Facebook that I'd received as an inpatient.

I had been talking to our mutual friend, Cassie (I've changed her name here, likewise equally Stanley's), from higher. We'd been exchanging letters on Facebook, and while looking at our conversation, I saw an older bulletin she'd sent me, while I was in the infirmary, which I had no memory of.

"Cassie messaged me while I was in Santa Clara," I mentioned to Stanley, my eye withal fixed on the screen. "I said y'all joked around, saying you lot hoped my retention stayed dumb, and she replied, 'Is there something he doesn't want you to think?'"

I laughed. Stanley didn't.

"Why do you think that's funny?" he demanded, pulling the laptop toward him. He didn't sit down. "Why would yous tell her that?" He shoved the laptop away and placed his hands on either side of his head. "Why would you say that to her?"

"Hey, relax," I grunted while using both the table and chair to pull myself to a standing position. Once facing him, I added, "I don't run across what the problem is."

"You don't — y'all don't — " Livid, Stanley couldn't seem to express himself through his rage.

Instead of walking abroad or going within, I merely stood and watched him stutter as his face flushed until he finally formulated words. And boy, what words they were.

"What is wrong with you?" he started. "Here I am, doing everything I tin to help yous — sticking around when we idea you were going to dice, staying when you were r*tarded, not leaving when nosotros weren't sure if you'd get ameliorate. And I'm here now fifty-fifty though — look at you." He paused to moving ridge a paw from my brusque hair to my bare anxiety.

Incapable of speaking, I retreated through the sliding glass door into the kitchen. All of the words I wanted to say slithered through my mind, cleaved, disconnected. Just nothing came from me.

"And you lot might be like this forever! And instead of telling Cassie how supportive I've been, you lot say that to her? Why couldn't y'all have told her how good I've been to yous — trying to make you lot look like less of a mess, getting your hair cut, taking you to get your face waxed because it was disgusting."

As he spoke, he encroached on my space, stepping forrard until his face was less than a few inches from mine. His easily nevertheless flapped in the air to either side; I think he may have wanted to grab me by the shoulders only refrained. It wasn't until he vibrated each manus on the left and correct side of my face that I realized I was shaking also.

Stanley pulled his hands back, made a racket that sounded similar a mixture of an exasperated moan and a frustrated yelp. Finally, he stomped out of my parents' kitchen like a schoolboy suffering a tantrum. All I heard side by side was the gate slamming behind him.

Later, he pretended we'd never had that interaction — I only brought it up once in the post-obit days, and he insisted he didn't know what I was referring to.

More than ii years before I woke up disoriented in the infirmary, it was the beginning of my "inferior" school twelvemonth at the University of California, Santa Cruz (UCSC). All of the out-of-town transfer students over the age of 22 were corralled on the starting time floor of the transfer dorm. That dorm became a haven for all of us who had spent our mail-high school years not attending college. But we had finally pulled together those community college units to proceeds admittance to a four-year school. And past God, we were celebrating.

Cue the night after nosotros all moved in: Everyone left their dorm doors propped open and flitted from room to room, taking a shot here, nabbing a plastic cup of our hallmate Cassie's homemade wine at that place. Anybody except me. Stationed at the school-supplied prefab wooden desk underneath my bunk bed sans lesser bunk, I was drinking whiskey and playing music from a USB-connected speaker.

"Anyone dislike Tom Waits?" I shouted in the general direction of the bodies clustered in my room. "All right, well, that'south what nosotros're gonna listen to now."

Amongst the gyrating bodies, a short guy in a blue baseball game cap, brim pushed upwards jauntily, slid forward with an elbow pointing at me. He looked besides young to exist drinking.

"I like Tom Waits," he offered. "I'm Stanley."

"Let me judge," I snapped, "you like Rain Dogs. That's fine 'n all, merely we're going to listen to some real pitiful shit right now."

Later, Stanley would divulge his first impression of me: feet upwardly on my desk-bound, pugging whiskey straight from the bottle and ranting to him almost Tom Waits. He idea I was a bitch. And I would tell him that I thought he was a disrespectful asshole. That didn't cease him, afterward our initial meeting, from tapping on my dorm door every day, asking if I wanted to go walk in the woods or mountain biking. And it didn't terminate me from taking a swig of my ever-present whiskey and replying, "Sure."

Nosotros weren't together, but we weren't not together. Before we slept together, Stanley spent all of his time with me and stopped seeing all of the other women he had been involved with. By the end of that first semester, nosotros had slept together multiple times, met each other'southward family at Thanksgiving, and still non talked about what, exactly, we were doing. At the time, I didn't think a conversation was necessary; I figured we had a gentleman's agreement and were on the aforementioned page: exclusive but unserious.

Although we lived on the same hallway, Cassie and I weren't peculiarly close outside of the companionship provided past a common pastime: drinking. At the terminate of that year in the transfer dorm together, we all dispersed. Cassie moved into UC Santa Cruz's on-campus trailer park — the one I'd autumn out of a tree next to, a twelvemonth later — and I plant a room in an former Victorian on Mission, not far from Laurel Street and downtown.

Part of me figured Stanley wouldn't skulk around my door anymore, since we no longer lived a few feet away from each other. But certain enough, he ended up in a sublet off of Laurel Street and would rap on my window from the front porch, softening his big brown eyes when I pulled back the blinds to come across who it could be.

One day, Stanley, now sitting by that window at the estimator chair and desk-bound my sublet provided, broached a conversation nosotros had never touched upon before, i I always avoided with anybody: acquaintances, bar patrons, friends — whatever Stanley was.

"How did you lose your virginity? I remember when I lost mine … "

For the life of me, if you asked me how Stanley lost his virginity, I wouldn't be able to tell y'all anything near information technology. I stopped listening after his initial question.

"Are you lot OK?"

Stanley'southward genial curiosity caught me off guard.

"Yep, I was just … thinking."

"You don't look OK." He came over and saturday next to me on the sublet'south twin bed. A wood frame painted white housed a run-of-the-mill mattress, neither soft nor difficult. Stanley peered into my eyes incredulously, daring me to confirm what I could see him working out in his listen. Then I did.

"It, uh, wasn't my pick."

"Do you retrieve his name?"

And I said it for the first time in nearly 10 years. I don't know how I wanted Stanley to react. I don't know what I wanted him to do — maybe nod? Peradventure ask if I wanted a potable? Oh, God, I wanted a drink. The previous night, I had polished off my bedside whiskey and hadn't had the take chances to walk to the liquor store before Stanley popped over. Simply I know I didn't want him to practice what he did.

Immediately, he bounded to the estimator and opened Facebook.

"And this was in San Diego? OK, let me run into."

So he began clicking on profiles and muttering to himself, "No, as well young. Couldn't be this one. Hmm, new to the area — no. You don't know his last proper name?" Stanley glanced over at me and and then stopped touching the reckoner.

At the time, I didn't have the vocabulary, but at present I can describe how I felt — confused, disoriented, overwhelmed. I heard the words, I understood them, but none of them stuck with me. Information technology's almost similar tunnel vision, simply the opposite seems to happen — everything expands and your field of vision contains too much and none of it makes sense. Your optics h2o because everything feels overexposed and lacks item.

I didn't observe him rejoin me on the bed or when he took my limp hand from my lap and held it. But I did hear him when he said, "I remember people place too much weight on a person'due south sexual history."

Then he kissed me gently and we had sex, on a mattress that could have been hard or soft or just fine. But information technology hadn't been love — he felt sorry for me. He insisted, afterward, that he cared well-nigh me, only he didn't want to be together, couldn't be in a relationship. And I understood considering, I felt, who would want to be with me?

No 1 knew about this interaction, but I'thou sure the leeway I gave Stanley despite the boundaries he crossed — because of his reaction to a truth I hated so much — looked like love.

In the months after I left the hospital, my memory slowly only surely came back to me. I remembered all of this, almost how I met Stanley and what our relationship was like before the accident. But I still had some questions. Some missing pieces — like how I could take let whatever of this happen.

"Icouldn't tell you earlier," said Cassie. "Because I thought yous were in beloved with him. How could I tell you what Stanley had washed?"

This conversation with Cassie took place before I vicious out of the tree, and it came back to me every bit I gradually regained my retention. Nearly seven months after leaving the dorms, we were sitting at an outdoor table on the patio of UCSC's Kresge Café, where nosotros oftentimes met to talk about the likes of Amiri Baraka or Jean Toomer for our poetry course. It was well into our 2d year at UCSC, our "senior year," that Cassie and I began hanging out consistently and (relatively) sober; Cassie had an elective slot open, and I suggested she take a poetry course with me.

Cassie rubbed her left arm with her right hand but kept her eyes on mine.

It happened on Memorial Day Weekend when nosotros all still lived in the transfer dorms, she said. Just a little over half of a year earlier our meeting at the Kresge Café. Memorial Twenty-four hour period had been a transfer dorm hallmate'due south birthday and everyone had gone to Cowell's Embankment to celebrate — everyone except me. They left before I returned from — where had I been? I don't know. Drunkard somewhere. Like ever.

Cassie described a beach blaze. But then she and Stanley had run into the wood to find firewood. She described Stanley slinging his arm effectually her neck, the aforementioned fashion he did to me. Cassie hadn't establish this strange, and I didn't think she would — when he did this to me, I felt more similar a "bro" than a romantic partner. Information technology was when she fell downwards that things changed.

She described them losing balance and toppling over a log. So she told me Stanley started ripping down her pants and putting his mouth on her … I can't go there once again.

"I told him to stop and he did." Her phonation trailed off every bit if, mayhap, she should alibi him for the initial violation since he was so good at post-obit instructions afterward.

"I am … so fucking angry — "

"This is why I didn't desire to tell you," Cassie whispered. "I didn't want you to hate me."

"No, no, no, no, no." The word tumbled out of my mouth and wouldn't stop. "No, no, no." Mayhap if I said information technology enough, she'd know. "Not with y'all — yous did nil incorrect — with him. With him. He'due south a fucking monster."

And I hated myself. Because I had been awake, drunk but awake, when they returned. Everyone else clambered upstairs to continue the party, simply Stanley pulled me into his room and into his bed. After what he had done.

When Cassie told me all of this, Stanley had been studying abroad for months. Neither of us had heard from him in that time. I heard from other mutual friends he had a girlfriend of sorts.

A month later on Cassie'south revelation, Stanley commented on the UCSC trailer park's public page, a community Cassie was a part of, and received a harrowing response from a friend of Cassie'south: We'd rather not have whatever sexual assaulters in our community, thanks.

Which, of course, caused Stanley to telephone call me — the first time in nine months we'd had whatever contact.

"What is she saying about me?" he shrieked.

"Not actually certain who or what you're talking about."

"Don't play fucking dumb: Cassie. It was an accident. I stopped. What is she telling people?"

I sighed and tried to proceed an even tone. "Whatever happened, it obviously caused her more damage than you idea."

"You were raped," Stanley responded. It sounded more than like an allegation than a annotate; information technology felt more like an allegation.

I didn't answer, and he continued. "Y'all know what existent set on is like. You need to tell her. Call her right at present and brand sure you tell her. You have to tell her what it'south really like — that, what was his name? That the construction worker came into your room and held you downward and told you non to scream and forced his fucking — "

"Hey, hey, hey now." I didn't need the play-by-play. "I get it, I go it. Jesus."

And because it's easier to shove your hurt onto someone else than addressing the bleeding parts inside yourself, I called Cassie and did the worst thing I've always done in my life: I told her information technology could take been worse.

"Cassie," my voice croaky every bit I told her everything and and then said, "What Stanley did was inappropriate, but he stopped."

I north the months following my coma, these memories returned to me in sporadic waves. I remembered, and and so I convinced myself I must be misremembering, I must be wrong. Stanley would storm out whenever I brought up the past, only to return the following twenty-four hour period like nothing had happened, which made things even more than confusing.

But I finally called Cassie toward the end of January 2016, five months after I had moved back to San Diego. I wish I could say I had mustered the courage a month before, as shortly every bit I realized there was something Stanley didn't desire me to remember, but how could I possibly tell her I remembered, that information technology had come back to me, and Stanley was still here?

"Cassie?" I asked quietly when a vox answered the phone. I stood in the backyard of my parents' house, the but place I could be lonely.

"Brooke! It's so good to talk to yous. How have yous been? What happened?"

I told her everything: Santa Clara, Stanley, not knowing exactly what had happened.

"I chosen Stanley as soon as the ambulance took you lot away," Cassie said slowly, "I figured he would have contacted your family unit. The hospital had to find your parents' information? Why didn't Stanley call your parents?"

A foreboding sensation crept into my gut and my skin became cold and clammy. It was clouded, typical January weather in San Diego, but far from common cold.

"That nighttime," she said, "we had made information technology to the elevation, at least 85 feet up, and yous were really confident — nosotros were joking around — and then all of a sudden you looked at me and told me, 'I have to get down. Now.' Then yous sped down, and I remember climbing to a lower co-operative before you barbarous is what saved your life."

"And," I started and then stopped to moisten my mouth — information technology had gone dry — and eased myself downwards to sit on the concrete patio. "That's all that happened?"

"Well," Cassie added, "I did think information technology was weird when I heard Stanley was still with you in San Diego. Before nosotros climbed the tree that night, y'all were telling me how much yous hated him. You had him buy a airplane ticket back home in forepart of you to be sure he was really leaving. He had just moved all of his shit into your room after his lease ended, and you wanted him gone."

"Cassie," I replied weakly.

"Well, it's good the two of yous take worked things out. It was simply, y'know, weird."

It was true; my misgivings hadn't been unwarranted.

Stanley and I had been involved, but it was long over, and — equally usual — Stanley used me right when I thought I was rid of him. When he came back from studying abroad, he stayed with me for about a week and insisted I mediate a chat between him and Cassie. (I did, and she said she wasn't going to press charges.) He found his ain place, but then when the bound quarter ended and his sublease was up, he moved all his shit into my room; I protested but he insisted. I kept telling him that he needed to simply get home, simply he continued to insist, over and once again, that he needed to stay to make sure "Cassie wasn't going to practise anything."

I even so take no retention of the nighttime I fell out of the tree, but Cassie told me I had made him buy a plane ticket in front of me to be certain that he would exit.

Afterwards concluding our phone call, I remained seated on the basis outside. I felt stupid; I was stupid. Stanley had been disarming me he was doing me a favor, that I needed him. When actually, he needed me. Even so paranoid about what had happened with Cassie and his reputation, he had been using me to convince everyone he was a skilful person.

Aweek after my call with Cassie, I was baking cookies. Remembering the recipe, the measurements, the order I needed to mix the ingredients, exercising my fine-motor skills to mix them — information technology was all good practice. It was all rehabilitating, my occupational therapist told me.

Adjacent to the kitchen sink, my mom swirled a drinking glass of champagne and said, near as if she were channeling it from another plane, "Three days into your coma, Stanley told me nosotros should pull the plug on y'all."

Above the bowl of saccharide and butter, my hands held a jar of peanut butter and an overlarge spoon, motionless. I stopped to await at her, closing ane center to gainsay the double vision the impairment to my occipital lobe had caused.

My mom averted her eyes equally she added, "And he would sit forever and endeavour to approximate the code to your phone — he was desperate to get into information technology." And so she shrugged. "But yous seemed like you wanted him around …"

"When I was in a coma?" I asked.

My mom ignored this and said, "Stanley told me he knew you and knew what you'd want."

Even knowing this, knowing my life had been disposable to him, I was as well weak of a person to brand him leave. Stanley kept coming past my parents' house every day, telling me I should terminate focusing on rehabilitating my listen and should instead make my physical appearance more than appealing. Frequently, he'd drop me off at walk-in waxing salons, instructing them to make my face polish, "less disgusting."

"I simply want to be able to think again," I'd whisper after.

"This is probably the best yous're going to get," he'd reply. "You lot need to take meliorate care of yourself. You have a lot of competition."

This obsession with outward aesthetics culminated in him taking me to Calaveras Mountain, a pocket-size mountain in due east Carlsbad, and behest me to run to the pinnacle.

"My physical therapist said I shouldn't do any strenuous exercise without her … my body notwithstanding tin can't regulate temperature."

Stanley shot me a look of disdain and hissed, "My stepdad is a physiatrist — I know what I'm talking about. I guess you don't really want to become better."

Halfway upwards Calaveras, my double vision split even further — something I didn't think was possible — and I felt bile rising in my esophagus. Taking a knee, I put both easily onto the dirt-covered path and threw upward.

"My dad was never piece of cake on me," Stanley solemnly whispered, a bizarre explanation for his actions.

We walked the rest of the style down.

"I retrieve I demand to go," Stanley finally said one day.

"Do whatsoever you need to exercise," I responded.

Nosotros were sitting at a Thai eating place in a strip mall. Across the mode, I had briefly worked as a hostess in a restaurant when I was newly 18; they tore it downward and built a Red Lobster in its identify.

"You're not upset?" He searched my face. "Would you want to stay together? Yous'd miss me."

I wondered who he was trying to convince.

"Yeah, nosotros can stay together … even though y'all tried to kill me."

Stanley reeled dorsum as if he had just been slapped. His feminine lips parted and his bottom jaw hung open, aghast.

Stanley, enraged, knocked over his tea. It had been well-nigh empty. The outrage felt performative; the spill theatrical. I was beginning to become a headache; I just wished someone would be honest with me — my mom, Stanley, anyone who had been there. Everyone wanted to protect themselves at my expense. I felt like a child every time the idea "Only what about me?" sprang into my head.

"I only meant if it got to that point — if yous were going to be brain dead." His hands flailed and his lips flapped every bit they always did when he tried to make a bespeak. I'd finally settled on Beaker — he looked like Beaker from the Muppets. "If you were encephalon expressionless, your mom would just go on you lot forever in a back room drooling all over yourself! Look at you now — yous don't even accept your own bed and they've been taking your disability money for months."

That was sort of true; once I had been established as disabled by Social Security, they started dispensing $775 a month to me, an amount based on my previous West-2s and work history. Only I chose to requite it to my parents — the insurance had covered the bulk of the medical costs, but my mother had racked up hotel bills staying in San Jose. I handed the provided debit card for my disability benefits to my father and said, "For everything I've done."

Equally I explained this, Stanley'southward mouth quivered in a dumbstruck "O." But his horror and confusion only infuriated me; I had told him all of this before. He knew this — or should have. Did he ever listen to me?

"And did you say that?" I shot dorsum, restraining myself, only barely.

"Say what?"

"'If it got to that bespeak?'"

"I didn't need to. That's obviously what I meant."

Stanley left the same week.

Heastward telephoned me in February 2017, more than a twelvemonth subsequently.

By this time, I had finished my available'southward degree past taking my remaining classes at UC San Diego, and I'd started working seasonal shifts every bit a production assistant at an academic publishing visitor. I took the railroad train to work past myself. An middle surgery had corrected my double vision, and I no longer needed to close one eye or wear a patch to see. On newspaper, I appeared to be a legitimate, operation adult, and no 1 asked about my abnormal gait or disability to write past manus.

Uncertain if I should answer Stanley'south phone call, I watched his proper noun manifest on my cell phone screen and glimmer away when I didn't touch it. A month later — I don't know if curiosity gripped me or if I hoped for an caption, or at least an amends — I called him back.

"I was surprised to see you calling," Stanley said by way of greeting. "I took mushrooms and went to a actually dark place and called yous because I knew you'd brand me feel better. Do you call back I'm OK?"

"What practice y'all hateful?"

"Cassie."

"For someone who didn't do anything wrong, you certainly are acting similar yous did something wrong."

"Fuck, Brooke, I didn't practise annihilation!"

"You ripped her pants down — "

"I DIDN'T RIP HER PANTS Downward. I PULLED THEM Downward."

"Did y'all unbutton them?"

"What?"

"Did you unbutton her pants?"

"I don't know. What the fuck does that affair?"

"Information technology does matter. It all matters. You've tortured me for over 2 years — do you realize that? Cassie told you two months before my accident that what you did was fucked up, but she wasn't going to do annihilation punitive. And and so — then — you lied to my family unit and friends, saying you were my beau to paint some sort of sympathetic narrative for some fabricated-up state of affairs y'all thought you lot were in — something that wasn't real. Just what happened to me was existent. Everything — my whole life — my whole life. And my whole life meant nothing to you … yous — "

"Wow," Stanley interrupted in anaesthesia. "Your speaking — your speech is really good. You could barely string together a sentence before. You — "

"You!" I roared back. "You lot stressed me out all of the time. Y'all interrupted me. Yous yelled at me until I shook. I — " My voice croaky. I felt — all at in one case — I felt pain. Regret. Shame. Remorse. "In the time you lot've been out of my life, I've fabricated such improvements," I continued in a about whisper, "… amazing improvements … if you had never been effectually … if yous hadn't forced your mode into my recovery … " I trailed off.

"You can't put that on me — I was going through something — "

"No." It was resolute enough to make Stanley fall silent. "You went through goose egg. Yous did something very wrong to Cassie. And me — yous probably stunted the progress I could have made. I'll never know. Goodbye, Stanley."

Cassie doesn't hate me, only she should. At to the lowest degree that'due south how I feel nigh it.

We were able to see each other in person in 2017, and then nosotros talked on the phone in the summer of 2019. She's doing well, despite everything, and understands the emotional manipulation Stanley employed to proceed me under his thumb. She's given me grace I'yard not even so fix to give myself.

I don't know where Stanley is or what he's chosen to practice with his life. I hope he's washed some self-reflection, simply I doubt he has. The hold rape culture has on the states all makes it nearly impossible for 18-carat cocky-reflection to occur in these types of men.

My physical deficits are still an everyday role of my life, merely I've come to accept my disability. Ironically, the trauma of my blow, recovery, and new identity as a disabled person pales in comparison to the effects of Stanley's subversive presence. I'm suspicious of all romantic partners and don't trust the motives anyone purports to have. I'thousand distrustful and resentful. I go to therapy to discern which parts of my skepticism are warranted and which are pure paranoia. Fifty-fifty when I know, am painstakingly shown the truth, it doesn't experience real or genuine.

Despite this, I've developed a tenuous romantic human relationship — maybe the word "situation" is more accurate — with an old friend who lives on the other side of the state. I think this is all I'm capable of, and right now, information technology's all I desire. Maybe that'll change, simply for now, I'k grateful for my cognitive capabilities, the drive to stay sober, and the lack of responsibility for someone else'south emotional stability — maintaining my own is quite enough.

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